Making a Difference

“Love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.” ― Mitch Albom

“Someday I will move on,” explained the child’s mother.
“Move on where?” asked the daughter.
“A place nobody knows of.”
“Can I go to?”
“When the time is ready and that will not be for many years.”
“Please don’t leave me mommy” cried the daughter.
The mother hugs the daughter and tells her, “Oh no honey, I won’t be leaving any time soon. But our time is limited so cherish every momement. Live every moment as if it were your last. Before comitting to any action ask yourself if this is worth dying for. Leave every situation on a positive note for it may be your last. Be the best you can always be.”


It is All in the Mind

“Bran thought about it. ‘Can a man still be brave if he’s afraid?’
‘That is the only time a man can be brave,’ his father told him.”
― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

“I don’t think I can do it,” said the child.
“You can do it if you believe in yourself,” said the older man.
“I can’t,” frowned the child. “It’s impossible.”

The man looked down to the child with a warm smile. “One is always uncomfortable of the unknown but once you embrace it, it usually turns out to be nothing or not so bad. The mind has a tendency to make situations worse than they are.”

The child looked at the picture of blocks taking a particular shape and then she began to pick up the woodblocks to connect them together. As she connected one block with another, a shape began taking form just as in the picture.

With trial, error, patience, and time, the little girl had put together the set of blocks to form a small woodblock giraffe.

“Look! I did it! I did it!” exclaimed the little girl. Her face was brightly lit.
The man smiled. “You certainly did. Embrace your fears and stay the course, that’s how you will grow.”


Your Being is What Shines

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” ― George Eliot

“You seem different today James. Whatsup?” quizcally asked Sam to James.
“Glad you noiced?” smiled back James.
James pushes his chest back showing full of confidence and continues to wear a wide grin.

“What’s with all the confidence and smile?
“I wanted to be more in life and was tired of walking around looking depressed.”
“Good on you. You look better this way.”, said Sam.
“Really? Thanks. It is taking a lot of effort to keep my self from slouching.”

“Well, this seems healither. Are you actually more conifdent?”
“Yea. I learned from Jim Rohn that “If I want to have more, I have to become more”.”
“Just like fake it to make it”, responsed Sam.
“Yea but more. You gotta start living up to it or else the change won’t stick.”, James quickly replied.
“Gotcha. That’s a good point.”

“Just sit down and think about someone or some people who have characteritics you want to be and write it down. Start showing up daily as you have written down. If you want to be a CEO, find some CEOs to look up to and learn from them, espcially ones you can talk to.”


“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.” ― Zig Ziglar

“I am sooo busy.” sighed Mary.
“Busy with what?” asked Jim.
“I don’t know. I gotta do this and that and then this and then that.” exclaimed Mary.
“IS that taking you closer to your goals?” questioned Jim.
“I guess so…” whipshered Mary.
“Do you have goals?” asked Jim again.
“Sure I do.” shot out Mary.
“Well, what are they?” asked Jim.
“Let’s see. Hmm, I wanted to do this someday.”

“That doesn’t sound like a very clear goal. I suggest you sit down and write out some. Do you know what SMART stands for? It’s a good start to goal setting. There are lots of sources out there on goal setting such as Darren Hardy, Jim Rohn, Brian Tracy, and etc.” explained Jim
“What’s SMART stand for?” asked Mary this time.
“Glad you asked. It stands for Specific, measurable, Attainable, Relative, and Timely.”
“Can you give me some examples?” asked Mary.
“Sure, for example..” said Jim

  • “I will lose 10 lbs over 3 months, so that is a little less than a 1 lb a week by doing exercise for 30 minutes a day, walking 10,000 steps daily, and not eating more than this plate size”
  • “I am writing and posting a blog entry every day for at least 15 minutes about food I love”
  • “I am studying 2 hours a day for the XYZ certification, which I have signed up for the exam in 3 months (specific date is better) to help me with my current job”

“Wow. Ok I get it. I can do that.” said Mary.
“Yes, it’s pretty easy to make SMART goals. Next challenge is work on them daily. That’s why it is important to break them into small pieces where you know can set aside the time.”
“Makes sense.”
“Yes, and I will warn you it can get boring so you gotta make it a game or challenge. Track your results if possible. Hold yourself accountable.” explained Jim.
“Got it. Thanks Jim.”
“You’re welcome. Good luck in achieving your dreams!” smiled Jim.

Being Decisive

“Decisiveness is a characteristic of high-performing men and women. Almost any decision is better than no decision at all.” -Brian Tracy

Making decisions doesn’t come easy sometimes. It requires a lot of thought and patience. However, that should not be an excuse to prolong the decision. Check in with your self honestly. Is this delay in decision due to my fears? Usually I find that to be the case. I don’t think you can ever have enough information and sometimes it does take a bit of a leap of faith. But never making a decision is a decision not to do anything other than what you are doing and is that really working for you?

Your Thoughts

‎”A man is what he thinks about all day long.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

We spend all day talking to ourselves. We are listening to many people throughout the day. We are observing things all around us all day. What are you focused on? What do you want? These objectives which you are more focused on are what you are absorbing. If you are angry, then are you only seeing anger about you? That is more problems and issues? If you are focused on love and gratitude, then are you seeing more situations of love and gratitude around you? Think about that and keep yourself in check throughout the day. Reflect on your day to see what you absorbed and ask yourself why was that. Then see if that is what you really wanted. Adjust….

Being Creative

“You see things; and you say, ‘Why?’ But I dream things that never were; and I say, ‘Why not?’” -George Bernard Shaw

I have heard people tell me to listen carefully not for what is being said but for what isn’t being said in order to find a solution. I have also heard it is about connecting the dots. The idea is there, it is just simply putting it together like Steve Jobs had done. Or I have heard to look outside your industry/business to see how others are doing it and see if that idea can overlay with your own. Then there are people who say just getting together with others for a good drink and discussing business leads to ideas.

Perhaps finding a great idea is a combination of all these or perhaps it comes from other situations. Wherever it comes from, putting time and effort to seek it is essential. Having a notebook at hand is helpful as ideas come and go like when lightning strikes. You gotta move quick or otherwise it will vanish.

The Effects Over Time

“Compound interest is the eighth wonder of the world. He who understands it, earns it … he who doesn’t … pays it.” ―Albert Einstein

The smallest actions of our habits will grow into big results in our lives. Reading great books constantly will lead to bigger ideas later. Eating healthy food will lead to a longer life. Hanging out with people who set out and achieve great things and influence you do so will lead you to better results. Do the opposite and you will see great negative results. Like a snowball, our actions are slowing growing and gaining momentum, perhaps invisible to ourselves. Be careful then of what you do with regards to family, relationships, health, business, and finance then.

Know Your Values

“Be studious in your profession, and you will be learned. Be industrious and frugal, and you will be rich. Be sober and temperate, and you will be healthy. Be in general virtuous, and you will be happy. At least you will, by such conduct, stand the be.” -Benjamin Franklin

Do you know your values? Like really know them? So if I asked you right now to tell me what your values are, would you be able to clearly tell me such as Ben Franklin had listed for himself? It would be wise to sit down and go over what your values are because as you go through your day, you check in with yourself when you make a decision. Does the action I am about to take match my values? If not, you may want to turn away and save yourself some pain.

It is no easy task do know and check yourself constantly but the payoff like with any hard work you do, is grand.

Calmness

“The pursuit, even of the best things, ought to be calm and tranquil.” -Marcus Tullius Cicero

How often do we work in a frenzy state to accomplish some tasks in our lives? Rather than focus on when it is to be done but instead focused on producing quality calmly, would our results be better produced? Watch your self-talk and watch when you need to get things done. Waiting to last minute is no win surely.